Well tonight W surprised me with a call as she got off work and asked if I wanted to have S tonight, I said of cores I would like to have him. She replied, "Good, {female friend} asked me to go out with her tonight to {Gay Bar}, so I will near by tomorrow morning to pick him up." I said that sounds fine. She came by to drop S off and pick up some clothes she could go out in. I did the usual of asking how her day was, gave her the news the house appraisal for our refinance didn't go well, so we couldn't consolidate/refinance our mortgage. She shared in my frustration. As she was gathering her things, I had asked her if the therapist (for PTSD) ever called her to make an appointment, she said no, but said she she wanted to call one but forgot the list and was going to call tomorrow since she was off. I asked if she would consider going to the marriage counselor again, since he is really good. She said, not just yet and she wanted to see a specialist first. Then I said I didn't mean to go together yet, maybe by yourself, since he had our homework and it helped me out a lot. She said again he is good, I'll think about it. A few minutes later, I couldn't resist commenting when she bent over in front of me (she was wearing a pair of jean that always made her look great), saying "those jeans still do you good!" she smiled and said, yeah but they keep falling off, and we began to discuss our weight loss. She dropped from 128 to 112, me from 215 to 194. She said she noticed I had been working out from Facebook. I told her she looked really great, and she smiled, showed me her belly and said "I lost my love handles see, but I still have a gut. I defended her by saying its just loose skin from your pregnancy you don't have a gut, you really look great. She thanked me and smiled some more. I told her to have fun tonight and see you in the morning. The best part was when our S came over and said "Mommy you make daddy so happy! Daddy, you make mommy so happy!" (I wish I had a video of that to keep replaying for her). I know I kind of broke some rules, but tonight she didn't seem "cold" like she had previously. I am hoping she is starting to get some kinks in her armor. Its been just over 3 weeks now. I know its a long way to go, still really hoping the specialist help her out, and maybe we can start piecing. So should I'm guessing since I came off kind of strong tonight I should back off again, and just be my "new" friendly self?
M 33 W 29 S 4 M 5 T 7 11/7/11 Separation, W moves in with parents 12/1/11 W: "IDLY, I'm not coming back, it's over" 1/7/12 D Bomb Dropped
