1. My method is not right for all. It depends on ur sitch, your W and what u can take. So do what works for you.
2. Accuray decided not to give an ultimatum... BUT... His W was honest with him about the fact that she was not going to stop talking to OM.
And as hard and gut wrenching and painful as that is, she was HONEST with him. And his W allowed HIM to make the decision knowing ALL the facts...
Just keep her honest so YOU can decide. Continued deception will only create resentment and pain for you IMHO...
Good luck my friend...
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012