wife won't admit PA with OM

[Sad_but_happy]

I'm going against the grain here Jake...

"Trust but VERIFY"... That's the key IMHO...

Verify can sometimes mean snoop. Nothing wrong with that. She has betrayed your trust and so you need to do what is necessary to survive. Sometimes, that means to snoop...

NOW...

You have information that she contacted OM, AGAIN. This after she told you no more contact.

There is no excuese for that. She is lying still.

IMHO, you need to take control of your life. By setting boundaries. For me that meant no emailing, calling, texting, seeing, speaking to OM. EVER! PERIOD! And my W has respected that boundary for over 13 months.

That was my boundary and I was and am STILL ready to walk out if she crosses it. And I won't walk JUST because she crossed my boundary. It's because she would have lied to me AGAIN.

You need to set your boundary and stick to it. But be ready to take action once you set that boundary. Or she won't respect or believe you.

Good luck...