Don't apologize for your advice. It's not coming off as harsh to me, it's coming off as direct... and you are right that I continue to keep repeating the same things.
I guess it really is pointless to confront her about the continued communication to the OM since I made it super clear the last few times that I expected no contact.
I'm starting to lean on it being some kind of test to see if I'm snooping because I looked again before posting this and saw that she texted him a bunch today, which is not normal for her recent recommitment to the M. She posted something on her Facebook last night saying, "very interesting things going on"... I asked her about it and she said, "I'll tell you tomorrow when I figure it out."
If I take the whole thing at what she says as being just a friendship and/or EA that she feels justified for, then the snooping definitely is completely unacceptable to her, and she would be likely to play games to figure out if it's still occurring.
If there is an A going on with the OM then snooping to see if she's still talking to him isn't going to do anything positive for me anyways. It's just really hard not to. I want to believe her when she told me she would not talk to him anymore after the whole thing last week... but she's already broken that one.
A big question I have is how do I approach the situation if she says she is going to go out in a day or two? I don't trust her at all right now.... but restricting her I think would lead to even worse actions or feelings.
