Confronted spouse...now he wont come home

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Thanks guys! Yes, I hope some poison starts seeping in. The good news is we're approaching about the 5 month mark from when they likely really started to connect emotionally (about 4.5 months since the PA started). My concern is just that they are long distance and secretive...so maybe the honeymoon period is extended. MWD says affairs typically last 6 months...seems like the data I see more commonly says 2 years...but that's when the affair isn't known.

My H claims they don't talk about the future or have any timeline or plans...which could VERY easily be a lie OR feeds into my theory that OW is just having some fun. (and H could look kind of stupid if he talks about a big future while he's married and she's not yet divorced)

My H claimed early on that they felt bad about the fact he was married. He also says she knows he's struggling. WTF? I guess I haven't been so passionately "in love" that I would be willing to continue to cross that line. That definitely goes for both of them...ugh. H also likes that OW's friends don't look at him like he's a cheating husband...I found that heartwarming as well.

It's also terrible because our kids have no idea anything is wrong (well, besides I'm sure sensing tension). So, I now need to lie for him over that weekend to tell them he has to work. Nice position that puts me in. Not that I haven't been in it for the last 3 months.

Sorry, just needed to vent a bit.


Yep, we live in CA so I may take my girls to Hollywood for the first time. The good news while H is on vacation...I don't think I need to worry about spending money on myself and the kids.

I hope we can all survive especially during the holiday season. Feels more painful for me.