too much time and distance

[any chance?]

Gunny:
It has seemed for quite a while, at least 8 months, if not more, that getting a D was on my W's check list - something she just had to do to validate her decisions. She "needs a clean break to move forward", and I told her I would give her one.

Part of me is leaning toward separating finances so that W has a reality check. I have been enabling her by supporting her completely, both emotionally and financially. At some point she has to look at the cold hard facts realize she needs to think about the future. She has a leave of abscence from her job, but needs to let her boss know by the end of February if she is planning on returning. All indications are that she is NOT planning on returning, but she has not even started looking for a job. Finding a job that will replace the one she has will be an interesting experience.

So, no, it does not cost me anything to keep the financial status quo, other than W living expenses. Supporting her just comes naturally, although others tell me I need to cut her off and have her face reality. I really do not know what the right thing to do is.