REQ: Looking for a thread from a fellow DBer...

[Abbey]

OMFG. What is he thinking? What a tough sitch for you. Generally, it isn't fair to the kid to introduce a romantic P (which you still are) until the R is firmly on track. WTH knows in this sitch? Yipes.

He isn't thinking though. And thus why my T says I've taken on the role of strong "rock" for him. Right now, I'm apparently the only one with a conscience. Last week he wanted to have dinner with his daughter, OW and her other 4 children. At the moment, he thinks it's perfectly ok for the OW's 13 year old daughter to be exposed to the reality that her mother had an adulterous affair, that her baby sister has another father, and her father doesn't even know what's going on yet. *mind boggling*

This is so out of step with my H's conservative minded parenting opinions.

If she caught wind of that kind of meeting without her consent...She's lose her nut. Is that why he'd want to do it? Is he trying to break free, call for help,... forcing the issue to see her go wacko (as he does know deep down, she is?) One can only speculate.

Sadly, I'm feeling my way in the dark with this thing, as much as the day old LBS. I just have more experience on how to harden my heart to the hurt than those who are new and have just signed on, or picked up DB or DR.

As meeting his daughter.. she's 2 and half, so it's not like she's going to remember my name or anything. But she would remember my "critters". And that would be a dead give away to her mother (that H had let me meet her) if she said she saw this kind of "critter".

He let something else slip today (and it was based on something I said yesterday about she had it good, one husband (her real one) jumping through hoops when she wants to drop her kids off with him... and a pseudo H with money... who she has at present wrapped around her finger... or at least a direct modem line to his phone/attention.