@ west. I do think it will take awhile.. Due to the toxicity of our relationship. She's working her 12 steps and has a long journey ahead of her. I have quite the journey as well so until we learn to be healthy towards one another..

..... She's also stubborn.. And fearful. I'm not waiting but I'll continue to db. When my heart is ready, it'll move on.

@js. I fear it is brusque as well but I don't know how to convey that this is not an option for me. It's what I need to do to protect myself.

Maybe a db coach would be good. Ive never had a phone session. Not because of money ( although it's extremely tight with recent developments) but because I confuse DBing with codependent behaviors at times. I think I'm getting better but I can care for the wrong reasons if that makes sense.

Thanks for the feedback. Keep it coming. wink

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.