Confronted spouse...now he wont come home

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I know I need to just leave him alone. Case in point, today's text messages from him (he is in OW's city)
H: "I just transferred/stole $2,000 out of your checking account"
Me: silence
H: "I just deposited $4,000 of checks. :-)"
Me: silence
It isn't unreasonable that we'd be swapping money around (he is paying our rent, etc.) But, obviously the first message didn't strike me very well given his upcoming vacation.

I will eventually respond and just say "Ok".

I know I need to believe the A will die...but this is where all the insecurities flood in. Is a short vacation with her really going to blow up the A? I find that hard to believe. I think my best bet is that he feels guilt while he's gone knowing that I know. And, maybe that shows through to the OW and she starts to get more uncomfortable. I just believe at the stage they are in...4 months of infatuation in a dreamland...they may not crack yet.

I don't know...I don't get it. Part of me thinks OW is just having fun while she waits for her D to go through. In a way, that's bad because she may have low expectations and my "poor" H is waiting around to see if the relationship develops further because I think he is all whipped over her. If you're just having fun...seems like it'd be easier to justify an affair with a married man.

And, I don't get the sense she's pressuring him to end his marriage, be with her non-stop, etc. That's also bad because he's then enabled to live more comfortably in his cake-eating world since I'm DB-ing.

Of course, I don't know. Optimistically, she's likely in her first relationship post-separation, she's 45, she has three kids...she's got to have some baggage, right? And, my H is very high needs sexually...I'm sure that's been fun/easy for her so far...but not sure how long she'll feel like keeping that up. Hopefully she start to feel a bit used.

Anyway, but yes, hopefully they have a terrible time. I think I will take my kids to a hotel that weekend and do a little road trip with them.