REQ: Looking for a thread from a fellow DBer...

[Abbey]

Thank god for this board and all the people here. OT's comments aren't without caution and concern. I understand the way my comments may "look" on the surface. I DO have her best interests in the front of my mind at all time.

THAT is also why I'm willing to bow away from this thing. Let the chips fall where they may. My H has to build a relationship with his daughter. That means being in some kind of relationship with his mother. (or so he thinks). There is no way to oppose that and I will not. (as disrespectful and distasteful and totally twisted thinking on his part, as it may be).

To prove my point further: He just called, to "do" one of my boundaries. Didn't think any of that got through to him, but guess what, he let me know where he was going, that he was with her, and that they were going to a certain place. (I requested that so I could steer clear.)

He asked me 4 times today, where I was going. I said, don't know. He told me where he was going, then I told him where I was headed. He asked... if you see anything cute etc. I said I needed sizes etc. I said it's hard to find stuff unless I know her sizes. Boot size, pants, shirts etc. He said, well... (and you could have knocked me over with a feather)... now that OW has a new job,... I'll be able to pick up daughter early and then you can meet her.

Wait... WHAT?!?! WTF?! *jaw drop* 5 days ago, I was NEVER going to meet his daughter. And suddenly... now the spin cycle is round and round, but he's back to what he was saying before my little visit. He's commenting on OW's melt downs, and how her job will have her unable to pick up daughter, spend adequate time with her etc.

My comment, well, don't p.o. the mother,... I'm ready when you are... but make sure you're ready for that. We have time. What else could I say?