To answer a previous question from you: I did know that it would not last with ow. I really knew that. I too agree that it had to burn itself out. What I was not sure about was how far he needed to take the A. When he told me it was just an "inappropriate R (EA) taking away from our M" and that it was not a PA, I told him to go to her. I felt that if it did not get to PA, then it would. Basically gave the message that I loved him, wanted him, but would not play 2nd fiddle and was willing to let him go if I was 2nd fiddle.

It's a juggling act. While I was preparing for him to leave, I was also preparing for him to stay. I was not sure which way it was going to go. It all depended on how crazy he was. As with you now, I too made a survival plan and how I was going to play this game of chess.

In the beginning our MC met with us separately for one session each. She didn't say it, but I could clearly sense she thought I should get out. I told her I needed to buy time while I made plans to be financially set. Haste would have wreaked havoc. I needed time and I wasn't going to have the home front a war zone. Like your sitch, ow planted a lot of bad seeds in his head about me. Reading over the IMs and e-mails I could see where she would insidiously say things about me. Like a true borderline/narcissist, she was a master at splitting people and we were not exception. I was going to be sure that I wasn't going to be anything bad. I was "a lady in the living room, a chef in the kitchen, and a whore in bed" as an old saying goes.

It was the crime she staged against herself to make me look bad that caused him to wake up.

M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29
S 22,21, 19
Bomb 4/10
It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013
We all have work to do


The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.