"...it is the initial adoration and idolization that draws the self-hating MLCer into the web of seduction."
WOW! Sure does fit mine too. H told me he hated himself and was on a path of self-destruction and he was going to go down big. FWIW, my H was re-enacting his parents' M and what happened between them. Being the same age as his dad...... as did his dad...... he attempted to destroy his career by having A in the work place, have an A, and have me kick him out. No baby though, H had a vasectomy (thank God). However, there is speculation his dad had a child and my H has a 1/2 sibling somewhere.
One thing was clear to me and that was I was not going to be maneuvered into his mother's position. I was not going to help the re-enactment happen. I've been well aware for years that H has been rebelling against me like he should have rebelled against his mother. He couldn't rebel. At 52 she was left with a 10 y.o. boy, H gone, and the IRS came in and took EVERYTHING. They had $1.52 left when it was all done. He and then we took care of her until she died.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
