Feel like I'm living the movie Groundhog Day...

[workinghardguy]

I wouldn't be paying for her kids, I'd be paying for my son... but it's a combined package. So Tuesdays are her days... if she has to work there's a child care cost and I pay half. Thursdays are my days... if she works there's a child care cost but since son would be with me I wouldn't pay anything and she would absorb the full cost. It's actually financially beneficial for her to have me watch the kids, and it allows me to maintain an R with SS and SD.

We have both talked to C about how to tell the kids. All the basics... do it together, agree to the script beforehand, be reassuring, united front, etc... Both C agree to not tell the kids until about a month before she moves out. Otherwise they get to live through the constant pain that I've been in since September, for months on end.

We haven't discussed an in-house legal separation yet.