REQ: Looking for a thread from a fellow DBer...

[Abbey]

I appreciate what you're saying Old Timer, but I'm not likely to change over my way of dealing with this. My mind set is what it is.

To be clear: It's my H who's resisting my interaction with his daughter. He's in a spin cycle of being fed by dysfunctional relationship with the OW and the drama she likes to make. He doesn't understand why he's attracted to, but he is. (he just said so.)

It will be HIS protection of his daughter that will eventually win out. With, or without me.

As for a package deal, I have nothing now, except a WAS,... so thinking in terms of what I could have is counter productive, IMO.