Sox - Thanks again for your reply and thanks for giving me some insight into your story. I am sorry that this have not fallen into place in the way you would like them to. You are very right that I need to get out of her head. It's a tough thing to do - very tough. I hope it gets easier over time. Truthfully, I am still dizzy from the punch of her dropping the D-bomb and I am still trying to gain my balance.
Sandi-great insight once again. If you wrote a book on WAWs I would probably buy it!
When I pose the question "will this get me closer or farther away to my goal of saving my family" I get torn. On the one hand, I tell myself if I help her with the things she needs and do not argue or fight, she will see me differently. If I protest and tell her "no" to everything it may make her feel the sting, but I fear that it will also make her view me as a total jerk - which doesn't help my cause/goal at all.
It's hard to hear, but you're probably right - she probably is happy right now. Happy to be away from me, happy to have her freedom. I know there are many variables to this question - but how long does that last? Forever? If I am being honest, I think my ego wants her to miss me as much as I miss her, but I don't see that as realistic right now - and I know I have to check my ego at the door in this process.
This morning I texted her asking if she would prefer limiting our communication to issues surrounding our son and our pending D. She responded "for now". Knowing she feels that way will help me detach more - but it still burns a little bit.
I really feel like I am trapped and there is nothing I can do to save my marriage and family right now. No communication, pending fights over custody, and a WAW that seems to be happy living without me. I hope that time will help turn this tide, but with the passing of each day it becomes difficult to stay hopeful and positive. I will do my best to keep my focus on my son and myself - but it is hard when I can't stop missing her or my son when he is gone.
