too much time and distance

[any chance?]

Ok, so I seem to be stuck in a rut I cannot get out of. Deep down, I know my W is not coming back. I do hold a glimmer of hope, however, that is very hard to shake. I keep in touch with her on a limited basis, occasionally sending a card to say hello, an occasional text (Happy Thanksgiving). It has been 3.5 months since she moved away.

Do I just let her move ahead with the D, or do I move ahead on separation of assets, etc., which has to happen sometime soon? Right now I am supporting her, but I think that needs to end soon.

W presents an outward appearence of everything being fine, but, to me it is clear she is a very troubled soul, with lots of depression triggers hanging over her head (loss of home, career, friends, financial stablility, etc). Do I just wash my hands of her difficulties and move on? I am grappling with how to do that.

Thoughts would be most appreciated.