REQ: Looking for a thread from a fellow DBer...

[Abbey]

I understand your concern old timer, but after being completely willing to adopt her as my own, raise her as my own, I have to distance myself from putting my head in that space again until this thing plays out. She IS my H's baby. She IS someone I would love and care for as my own. She would be every bit mine. Trust me. My T specializes in blended families, as well as marriage breakdown. She sees NOTHING wrong with my wording, nor the paper wall I've put up.

FWIW, My sis in law dealt with a similar sitch and "that child" comment is the same coming out of her mouth as it is mine. So don't get caught up on the wording. Her "that child" she raised from 7 months onward. Even though my nephew has a bio mother... My sis in law's wording is and was the same.... "that child" is MINE. He is my kid. X is my child, I'm that child's mother. This same sis in law has "promised" to help raise "that child" and do everything she can to help H and I raise that baby because of our lack of experience. (We live 10 houses apart). My sis in law would disown me faster than a dirty piece of gum if I regarded the child as anything less than precious.

How many women in their late forties would be willing to raise a child, considering the circumstances. Not many.

As for the "daemon spawn". You know that supernanny show? Well that's what her other kids are like. Multiply it by 4 other kids. My H is already speaking about getting her away from "them" and trying to get exclusive custody. So what can I say. I see redeeming qualities in the oldest daughter. The 3 sons... scare me. They're way out of control.