Went to my Divorce Care meeting last night, about 15 members there. The attendance flucuates from meeting to meeting, and the group meets every two weeks. Last nights discussion centered on Lonliness, a very appropriate subject for this time of year.
There was a new member there last night whos husband had left in April of this year, and she was completely overwhelmed. She was telling the group how ten years ago she had it all, a great job, well known in the community, just pretty high powered overall.
She left it all to have children and be a stay at home mom. Well, of course, this April, out of the blue, she was devastated. She now is left with taking care of 3 children, with no real prospects for a decent job at the moment, and no strong ties to the community she is in. We all felt terrible for her.
I saw more tears at this meeting, from people who had been affected by the recent holiday, than I have at any of the previous meetings.(I have been going for 5 meetings now). Divorce is still having a powerful effect on these people, and it is daunting to say the least.
We went off on a little tangent about whether, since love is a decision, not a feeling, people who have fallen out of love with their s are capable of falling back in love, given the right circumstances, i.e. both people have identified the problems in the m, have owned up to their respective responsibilities, and are willing to do the hard work to reconcile.
Question, what is the concensus of the board, is love a decision or a feeling, and can you fall back in love with your s?
Any takers? Would love to hear some opinions. Hope everyone is well!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
