I'd caution you from trying to read too much into what your wife says about her feelings for your right now. When someone is actively in an affair, they are usually seething with a potent mix of rage, resentment and ENTITLEMENT, and her feelings are going to be all over the map.
Five days before my wife told me "I love you, I've ALWAYS loved you, YOU'RE MY HOME," she was telling OM "You're the one for me," "no one does it for me like you do," and telling him that I made her "physically ill" and she would NEVER be with me -- ever!
That was 4 1/2 years ago. Today we are reconciled, and have celebrated the birth of our first grandchild, our 50th birthdays, and our 25th wedding anniversary.
