In keeping with the Rock Music Theme, allow me to say, it seems we are all on the Highway to Hell in one respect or another. If you are like me, Antonia, you have trouble separting good heart from hopeful fool. Not that my X has asked me for any advice.
I guess you have to ask yourself are you doing what you would do for anyone, or is this because of the hope of emotional reciprocation of some kind? Me, I'm so used to living between a rock and a hard place I'm ready to dig a hole and pull it in after me.