Hey, my H did the same thing, even nearly two years later, throwing up the same stuff I did wrong, and how he had no fault in things, whenever we had a disagreement. They just have to come to the end of whatever it is, before they can think clearly enough to see that you are not the only one who contributed to the problems in your M.
Good for you, the determination to lash out at her in anger, that shows a lot of strength of character. She will one day see you for who you really are, not who you were then. vc
