New here; husband left

[Coyote]

After the good words above I shall add what I can,

'Its all so fast and H is hell bent on it. It's really hard b/c I dont konw his motives or what hes looking for.'

My apologies, but when a WAS is like this their motives can change hourly, every five minutes even. Not always easy, but save your energy and try to redirect it elsewhere, aka, yourself. You need all you can get!

If this helps, I will relay a 'silly' situation with my WAS. Know that you are not alone,

After W and I separated, W said she wanted to go out for dinner with me. While there, she said she would like to take a trip with me for a week to see her family and show that we were strong as a couple. She wanted to do this the very next week. I responded with, 'At the moment my work can't allow a week for me. Perhaps we can work on things for now and strenghten our relationship. That way we could show them a united front. In a couple months I'll be able to take a week or even two and then we can see them as a much better couple.' Fair enough, I figured.

She stayed silent for a bit. Then, no more than 5 minutes later she said she wanted a D. She then made a brief call to a 'supportive' girl friend (who later ditched her but that's another story.) Right after this, she then said to me that she wanted to go for a 'romantic' ice skate on the river to help us connect romantically before we 'D', Whaa the?!! Ya, I'd seen a few things by this point but this was out there...Strangely, there was even more to come after that but jeepers...

Ya, expect a few weird things. As things progress you'll get better and better at letting these nutty things roll away. Certainly, you'll gravitate to wanting to know what the heck H is up to, hard not to. But you don't want 'nutty' H. Sounds like he has some sorting out to do before he deserves a good lady like yourself. Know this and continue to chip away at making yourself better and better,

Coyote