MrB, I totally get where your coming from, she seems to have moved on with OM, yes I knew, but she did lie about certain things, but I just sound petty by going on.
My problem is that I have left all contact to her, she calls me everyday, she asks how I am, how I feel, we laugh and joke, minor flirting, I was in the bath a few weeks ago, my son came in with the phone, he was talking to my wife, and she said its a pity its not a camera phone!!!
This sort of contact has confused and mis-lead me in a train of thought that there was hope.
This now ends
The validating does seem to be something that is being used against me at every opportunity.
I do take responsibility for my actions, but every time we have a disagreement over anything, even minor things, the past gets thrown in my face, what I did, what I said, these are things from well over a year ago, I keep asking can we move on, but she can't, or does not want too!!
She will see no anger from me, I'm tired of being angry and I'm proud of how I've controlled myself during this latest issue.
I haven't thought about drinking at all, I have not argued or raised my voice, and I have not contacted her since the conversation.
And you know what, I am at peace with it all.
VC, I think you are right, I wish I hadn't sent the text and took the moral high ground!!
