OK- take it for what it's worth. in '05 I was the LBS, now I'm the WAW. Yup, I'm walkin away so things didn't patch up all that well. Long story (years worth of posts).
I am also the queen of detachment, so I apologize if my posts seem cold. I'm just kinda a straight shoot'n kinda gal.
One, remember that every event has at least 2 sides. What you remember and perceived may not be what she remembers and perceives; in fact it's bound to be totally different!!!
Those "happy times" could have been times she was trying like heck to put on a good front and try to be happy. You saw happy and felt happy, she felt miserable and fake.
As a WAW I do have moments of second thoughts. Is this really what I want? Do I want to divorce? Is this best for the kids? I think I asked myself those things at least 10 times today. But for me, the answer keeps coming back yes. (sorry) Why? I go over all the hoops I jumped through for H, all the crap I put up with (oh and it is crap), the double standards, etc.
But yes, I question myself and my decision. Tears? Nope. None this time. (sorry)
Second, she won't see changes because she doesn't want to (or she won't acknowledge them). Changes could be too little to late, or well that's all and good, but why now...why not 3 years ago? or Well, those changes won't last (which in my case was right on the money!)
Third, each WAW is different and is thinking different things. But she is a mom of a little kid. I think it would only be natural for a mom to wonder if she was doing the right thing by splitting from her child's dad.
Fourth- now get out of her head. Who cares? Wondering will only kill you (remember that cat?)
You need to do what is best for you and for your child when he's with you. That's it.
Think of this time as time to do everything you've always wanted to but couldn't. Look at all the alone time you have!!!!!!!! Don't spend it thinking about things you can't change
That's it. 