WCF, I am just hopping on the end here. I'm sorry to hear about this. Your W sure did place about 120% of the blame on your shoulders, didn't she? Since I'm hopping on the end, I don't know this - do you have your own L? Do you agree with the terms of the D? Is that time schedule she laid out really OK with you?
I think staying dark probably isn't a bad idea. It sounds like any conversation you will have will just be unfruitful.