Somewhere between filing and D

[jon2911]

Talked to W after the last post, asked her "is this what you really want?" She said "yes", softly, and "I'll let you know if that changes".

I e-mailed her what I would agree to in the settlement, and that if her lawyer will draw it up I'll sign. She sounded confused and asked "wouldn't that mean changing your original answer?"

What? I've told her this a few times. Explained that I had to answer so she wouldn't get a default judgement, but that I'm OK with signing something reasonable.

I called her a week later, before Thanksgiving, and told her I'd be not far from her as usual. Asked if she needed me to print and bring anything signed to speed things up. She said no, and said she would e-mail me if she needed anything. I asked where she was going for thanksgiving, and she said the Ranch.

Honestly, that took the pressure off over Thanksgiving, and I was able to have a great time at the beach in Galveston. Lots of W memories there, but made it through. Now it's been a week again, and nothing from W.

The final hearing is the 15th. Looks like I'll have to go. Shared with the guys at recovery group tonight, and they think it's so strange. I haven't seen any settlement offer? How can they even schedule a final hearing without that?

It doesn't necessarily mean she's having second thoughts. However, I'm feeling good either way. This has been a long road. We ran a Black Friday-Cyber Monday sale at work that was a massive success.

So, any advice from my fellow DBers? My stance has been to not stand in the way, but not help the process along either. FaithfulH had success with that. What does love look like at this point? Drive her to the courthouse if she needs it, and this is what she really wants? Crazy I know, just wondering.