"Codependent No More" is a great read. I often warn people that if you are co-dependent.. DBing can be a little tricky because we have trained ourselves to "love" a certain way. For example.. being kind and creating good... sometimes we think it is love motivated, but it can also be motivated by fear.
It takes alot of patience and digging deep to tell the difference.
On the flip side - Codependent No More can easily get you to focus ONLY on you which isn't good all the time either.
So you really need a balance of the two.
I feel I truly love my w better now because of that balance.
Just my .02
M(f): 43 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
