MLC?

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That was funny!!
I agree that I have to give up sex. Not only is he using me, but I have also been using it as a form of manipulation. It is the only thing between the 2 of us that I can control anymore. But I have given that control over to God. The past few weeks I have tried to give the control over, but then I take it back to try it my own way! But I deserve to be treated better than that. The last time I said no, he seemed angry for a couple days, but then he asked again!

Cadet- thank you for posting the resources. I have read them all-even printed some but will re-read them again (and again)! The pursuer/distancer got me hooked and I ordered the book The Solo Partner. I am about 1/2 way through it an I just got it yesterday. It is right on the money when it comes to how my husband and I deal with each other. I pursue, he distances. It is so much like a dance, and it has worked- until now! Has anyone else read it and tried any of the techniques?

I guess it doesn't matter about whether he is in MLC or not- I cannot change him, only me! In a conversation we had recently, he said he wanted me to give him a figure, an amount I need to live on to maintain the house, etc. I told him I wasn't going to help him leave, that if he wanted to make that decision, he was going to have to own it and do it himself. He threatened again that he was going to "take action" but hasn't done anything. I told him that if he truly did not want to be here, he should leave, as it is pretty much torture for me having him here.

I think I am doing a pretty good job GAL- I just have to work on the going dark more. Any other resources, books, etc. I would love to read them!