As for the piecing. It's pre-peicing. I'm laying that foundation (similar to acting as if, nice etc) so that he'll have something to miss.
I believe Dr. Harley calls this "Plan A." And it can be effective; however, it's not recommended for more then 3-6 months (and I think even that is too long) before switching to "Plan B", and it's NOT recommended when the wayward spouse is still actively engaged in an affair. Starsky
Where as Fertel's advice isn't that. For what it's worth, I find Dr H's stuff a bit... dated. That said, if 3 to 6 months is where he recommends... I'm only 3 weeks into this.
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
