What I know is this: IF... and I do say IF we have any chance what so ever to turn this thing around. (and that IS what DB and this site is about, is it not?)... then I have to try to not make the same mistakes I made last time. One of the biggest ones was going back together too quickly and allowing him to NOT do the work he should have done FOR us. And make amends to me.
I couldn't agree more. What part of "c'mere, honey, let me scratch your back for you" communicates "This isn't going to be easy" or "you need to stop this path you are on, and make amends to me" ???
Starsky
But we're not peicing or anything. Matter of fact, it's ME who wants to separate, because I KNOW it's the only way he'll be motivated to do that work and grow his brain back. I spent all afternoon looking at homes to buy.
He will not get back into bedroom OR my house until he does HIS work and finally GRASPS and is ready to make amends for what he's done to me, and to us. I'm afraid that this parasite will blow up BEFORE I get out of here. Doing so doesn't push this thing to it's natural conclusion. Until and unless he sees her for the total certifiable wacko that she is...she'll always be able to use that baby to suck him in. I need to be removed from the picture, in order for her to shine in all her nutjob glory.
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
