A Bklyn tale

[BklynMom]

Here is the email response my DB coach and I came up with. It is slightly longer then 2tp & Sox suggested response. Her main point was that I show I was listening and validate.
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H,

I am so glad to hear you guys had a fun time in MA and that the driving was not too painful. D3 loves her gingerbread house and of course cant stop talking about Cousin. I have also heard a couple of references to Grandpa.

Thanks for letting me know your upcoming schedule – that really [censored] that they are adding another Saturday. I know you have been looking forward to this race for a while, and you have paid for it so it’s quite a dilemma - especially because I know you would love to see the girls and they would be thrilled to see you. Whatever you decide to do will be perfectly ok with me. We have no firm plans this weekend so the girls could certainly stay with you if you did decide to come back. Do whatever works best for you either way I will support it.

I can only imagine how hard it is to be in Atlanta while the girls are here. Thanks for recognizing how hard its been holding down the fort here in Brooklyn. I know you will continue to be the fantastic Dad you have always been. Thank you for offering a vacation. I think a 3-day weekend would be a perfect break for me. I would totally love a few days in Vermont to snowboard.

We have been apart of each other’s lives for so long and have always felt like we have been best friends until a few months ago, so I am sure our friendship will continue. I have no grudge.

I realize now all those time when you were trying to tell me something. This has been a real wakeup call.

I truly appreciate your acknowledgment of the pain you have caused me but on the other hand I did the same to you. Also when you said you were sorry on Friday that meant a lot to me.
Love
BM
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I know you guys probably dont love the letter but I my DB coach says my H has shown some positives lately like saying "Im sorry" and acknowledging he has caused me pain. These are small but big changes for him. Also he said I have been amazing which I need to write down in my solutions journal.
Keep the critics coming. Thanks