First post, words of wisdom needed

[sandi2]

I don't think you have stated specifically why she wants out of the M other than she wants "space".....and she wants that b/c she wants to date. Has she actually asked for S or a D? I know she said it would be hard on her dating you and living together at the same time. How old is your wife?

She told me that she wanted to date other people, so obviously she either has some kind of a connection with someone or wants to form one. The funny thing is that I am not mad about it because I was the one that has pushed her away all of these years so basically I deserve it.

How did you push her away all these years? What do you think you've done to "deserve" this?

You said you've been working on doing a complete 180. What is your 180?

Is she the breadwinner in this M while you're going to school?

Once someone has emotionally detached is there any way to get them back?

Are you talking about her being emotionally detached, or you?

Let me speak on the woman's behalf. Yes! But there are some important issues to consider that are involved in each case. For example, if she's been in an EA or PA. The amount of resentment she has toward you, and how long she's carried it. How big or small a risk taker she is. How much she would lose by leaving you, and how much would she gain by leaving you. Are you worth it? Can she see a hint at the man she thought she was marrying? These kind of questions are to be considered, but above all, I think it will depend upon how you make her feel.

If her emotional needs have not been met for a long time and she's running on fumes, then it could take quite a while, but if you think she's worth it....then you will do what you can to be the man she would not want to go through life without.