Val, I am a far cry from a vet here. In some respects we are on similar parts of our paths and our sitchs run in parallel. Strategies are tough especially since all we know of each sitch is what has been posted. Not to shill, but a coach is much better to strategize with.

I think the letter is strong. I think the letter is fair. Some may think it brusque, but as I have all the tact of a grenade it looks good to me. I like the fact you thought it through and it represents an action versus a reaction.

You are doing fine Val. I too had my hopes up recently. This sh!t suxs, but we’ll emerge out the other side better people for it.

As for boundaries, some people need them to know where they fit. I like to think these are people without personal boundaries they can self impose to remain useful in the society they find themselves in. Like children they push and test the boundaries. So expect it.

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill