"Sharks and fish can be friends" from Finding Nemo

[AntoniaB]

Punkin love is a very strange thing...and I get the same feeling a lot. If you look at my most recent post on my own thread I offered an ear to my XH who is miserable about his job. I realize that the path of DBing often says to let these people sink and realize how bad they have it and don't help them or offer to help, because they need to see that they can't have their cake and eat it too...but I'm so convinced that me and XH are through that I guess at this point it's the stupid LOVE I have for the him of the past that makes me feel badly for him enough to say I'll help him out if he wants on the job issues, knowing full well that if I do help him and if he does have a better attitude about his life, that OW benefits, not me.

I don't get my own actions at all. I guess it's love. What else can I say.

I think that you are going through this too, we all are in our own way. You can't shut it off. My doctor says it's only going to transform into something else but never really go away. I think a lot of us spend energy trying to make the feelings go away and I guess we just have to give up and say that we can't do it.

But you know, you still sound really good, and you're so far along really if you think about last year at this time. It's so nice to hear you cracking jokes so much too :-)