Welcome to the DB community. I'm sure the coach encouraged you to get Divorce Remedy to read. You may want to pull up some information about co-dependency, also.
Have you thought about taking some classes at the local college? I just bet you might find you're not the only introvert out there.
Most places have things going on in the community and will announce them in the local newspaper's society page. Once you make yourself get out and start attending public things, then it won't be quite as hard. I do believe men are better at attending things alone, more than women are. We women don't even go to the bathroom alone if there's another female around.
If you have but one friend who will go to a few things, that would beat staying home by yourself.
I think you need to really get your forcus off your H, and try to just develop your own life, for now. It sounds as if he's really confused and it might take a very long time before he is able to settle down and be stable. While he's not being very stable in his life.....don't you think it would be best for you if you got more out of life? I'm not telling you to give up on a future with him (if that's what you want), but I hate to see you put everything on hold while he's jumping back & forth with this OW. And, she obvioulsy is not his only problem. If he heard tonight that you were going to move in with another man, he'd be all over you trying to make you believe how much he loves you! Why? B/c that's where he is mentally/emotionally. The minute he knew he still had your heart, he'd lose interest again.
Can you share what you took away from your DB coaching session? Did your coach think your H is in MLC? Let me ask you this.....if he is, would it affect your decision in what to do about your future? If so, how & why?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
