He moved out of OW house. Told her it was done. He moved home. He is remorseful. Puttimg his paycheck back into our joint acct as he had pulled it out awhile ago. So....help.
wow, not sure what you are asking.
I am glad he's out of the OW's place....very glad.
But I sure wish you had taken WAY more time before he moved back in.
but he's there now.
So what are you asking?
I mean, if he is NOT willing to do anything that would reduce the chance of leaving you guys again, or to address his problem drinking and the financial issues
(fwiw, of course he's putting the money in the family joint account. Where else would it go?)
and if
neither you or the children are allowed to discuss what happened b/c that's "throwing it in his face"....what's your question?
I mean I guess you have to work on amnesia.
Hey I'm all for staying in the present but not like this. This is a major exercise in denial...
act like it "never happened"...
You don't have a lot of power unless you are willing to kick him out if he doesn't shape up and do some things that reassure you that HE is different, while knowing you won't repeat your mistakes either, which means doing the hard part
not the easy "here are some flowers and I'll compliment you"...that's the easy stuff.
Addressing HIS issues while you address yours, is where the real work comes in.
Life, I cannot imagine this lasting without serious individual and marital counselling ( and more), and down the road if he's well enough and honest enough, Retrovaille.
why'd you take him back so fast?
Were there ANY conditions on it?
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