First post, words of wisdom needed

[techguy]

Much of this is common for newcomers, though the blatent "I want to find someone to date" kind of sticks out. Typically folks like to get the divorce before they start trolling. Perhaps she's just being up front. (The secret affair is, of course, common).

Folks usually try to stay in house if they are wanting to preserve the marriage, it gives you more time to let her see your changes.