Thank you so much for your post cadet - you are so right. I had not seen the pursuit distance post before and I can see so much of our relationship in it. I also not see that I would make things so easy for him when he would only show a bit a interest....that has to stop!
Well, H came round tonight amd told me because he's not feeling it he thinks its not right and can't see we're going to go any where. I've been here with him so many times but it still doesn't get any easier. Rather than crying amd asking him to change his mind, this time I just told him I loved him, he was my best friend, but I wanted us both to be happy so he needs to do what he needs to do. I don't know if this was right or not but it was certainly a change to my usual response. He later text me saying 'I behave like this and you still behave with such dignity and still show love. Night night, little chat tomorrow if you fancy.' And so it begins again.
I don't know what any of this means but will definitely not be getting in touch with him. Any thoughts would be gratefully received. I'm going to try and get more involved with other people's posts too- its just with out a computer at the moment I'm having to use my phone which isn't so easy!
Hope thank you for your words of encouragement. Its nice to know I can come on here and not be alone. If only I had a pound for every time someone said to me ' there's someone else out there for you, let him go....'
'When the world says 'give up', hope whispers 'try it one more time'.
