Still Crazy After All These Years...

[ericmsant2]

Seeking

You admit that XH comments touched a nerve and that I understand. My question is…what do you expect from your email? Do you expect him to apologize? Do you expect him to all of sudden stop saying these things. Think about it for a sec….You have tried to talk to him about your M, it has not worked. You have held your head up high yet he still does things that irritate you.

It appears to me that his statements and/or actions are still triggering your buttons. That sweetie is the problem I see. YOUR BUTTONS.

Take them away from him. Accept that he is going to say and do whatever it is that he feels like saying. At the end of the day…who really gives a hoot.

Your button comes with an “attachment”. An attachment to your H. Sever the attachment by removing the button.

Do you still want your H? If so, why?

If not, then why allow him to take control of your emotions?

We often say we are taking the high road and I have NO DOUBT that YOU have! In the end though, perception is the issue. Your H’s has his own perception. You have yours. They are different.

SA, take away the button. Keep doing what you need to do and please stop worrying about what he says, does, thinks or feels. There will come a time when honestly you do not give a rats as* what he says.

FWIW, I am sorry that you are still going through this. Just remember, that YOU control YOUR destiny! YOU control when you get off of the rollercoaster.

In closing, your grace and dignity continue to amaze me.