Don't rely on your 'gut'. Follow the advice in the DB book. Take notes, remember them and take them to heart. DO NOT show them to your W. She may be a psychologist, but health professionals are the worst ones in diagnosing themselves. Keep that as your personal playbook.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.