How do I get him to leave me alone?

[brenalim]

Hi Guys! It's been a while since I've been on here, but I could use some advice. Quick overview... Discovered my H's affair in January 2010. I stayed for 8 months trying to save our marriage via all methods while he kept cheating. Big D was finalized in August 2010. We don't have any kids, no lasting financial matters to work out... Last time I saw my exH, I asked him for no contact. I told him that I wasn't interested in being friends with him and that I didn't want to see or hear from him again. I needed time to heal and I couldn't do that while maintaining any kind of relationship with him. Right off the bat, he was texting and e-mailing to see how I was, wishing me happy holidays. I sent him one note back telling him that he didn't have any right to know about my life anymore and to please leave me alone!

Since then, he texts every holiday and birthday to "wish me well." He even has sent me a couple of texts and e-mails saying that he needs to talk to me about something important. I've changed my number but he gets it again - assuming from mutual friends.

So, now it's been over a year and I know it's only been like 10 texts and two e-mails... but I don't want them anymore. They don't make me feel good to get. I know he sends them so he can feel better about himself and I've ignored him completely since that first text, but what can I do to get him to stop?

I've thought about sending him a text to ask him again, but that might just facilitate more communication. I thought about sending something to the woman he cheated on me with to ask her to get him to stop, but then does she feel validation for her part in it b/c obviously I'm a B#@$%h? Do I send something to his boss, but is it wrong to involve her in this? she doesn't need to get involved in all this drama.

I don't think I have any legal options... I delete the texts and e-mails as soon as I get them... I just want to be free from him.

I'd appreciate any advice! Thank you!