But do you include a profile pic? I didn't when I first went on as I was heading up a major fund raising campaign in my city and felt it was not right at the time. Some guys thought I was hiding something because I didn't use a photo. I never responded to anyone who didn't use a photo because I figured they were cheating on their spouse.
Good thinking, Barb! Well, Voldy was served yesterday, so now it's a matter of waiting 30 days before filing the court documents. The stupid court wouldn't accept my personal cheques so the Process Server paid the first $160 so we could get going. He gets it back out of my retainer, I guess. It's amazing, the court has no policy re cheques? Apparently, it's up to the discretion of whatever clerk you happen to meet that day. How dumb. So I'm on my way to singlehood.
I was cleaning out my computer files today and came across this. I have no idea where I got it from there's a good lesson in there:
There was once a new tree in a garden full of taller, mature trees. This was the first year the little tree had received a nice covering of leaves, and it was quite comfortable with the leaves it had. So when fall came and its leaves started to turn yellow the little tree was scared! In its fear, it looked around at the other trees and saw that their leaves were also changing color, so it relaxed a little. But then it lost a leaf! The little tree panicked and held on to the rest of its leaves tightly. It looked around again at the other trees and saw that their leaves were falling off too! Why were they letting their leaves get away? They won’t be protected from the wind any more, and what about the sun? How will they give shade without leaves? The little tree decided it was going to keep its leaves, even if they were now turning brown. The leaves were dead now, but the little tree held on, feeling safe hiding under the shelter of the leaves. Snow fell, and the leaves became heavy, but he still held on. Soon the weather started to turn warmer and light rains replaced the snowfall. Ah, this was much better, he told himself. Then he noticed the other trees had little green buds on them, and some were starting to flower. He looked at himself and saw that he did not have any signs of change. Pretty soon the other trees had glorious leaves on them, and some had fruit hanging among their branches. Now he was jealous! So he asked God, “Hey, why did you give the other trees new leaves and fruit, but you did not give me anything?”God said, “My dear tree, I gave you the same sunshine, I gave you the same rain, and I gave you the same love as the other trees in the garden.”The tree said, “But God, look at me! I am ugly. Why did they get new leaves, and I did not? It’s not fair!”God replied, “Well, my child, you did not get new leaves because you did not let go of the dead ones. You see, the older trees have been through the seasons before. They know that when they let a dead leaf go, I will replace it with a new one when spring comes. Not only that, but I usually give them more than they had before! They sometimes struggle with letting go, just like you. That struggle does not go away when you grow. “You just have to know that there is a reason why you can’t keep your dead leaves. Don’t allow fear and pride to trick you into keeping the things of your past. Besides, you have to admit that it was difficult to hang on to them in the winter! It is easier to let go and let me worry about the new leaves. That is a lesson all new trees have to learn”The little tree said, “Are you saying that I can be just as beautiful as the other trees?” God said, “You are already just as beautiful as they are to me. I do not love you any less because of your old leaves. I see what you can be, not what you look like now. But if you truly want to grow, be patient, let go of your leaves as they die, and I will do the rest.”
Whew, talk about stress! It was 11:00 pm before the first woman of the day emailed me. I was starting to worry thinking the magic was gone. Would I become a has been of the online dating world after only six weeks? Will I be tossed onto the ash heap of chewed up and spit out male profiles? But finally I was delivered by one fair maiden (who lives over an hour away) and my manhood saved to rise yet again another day.(Hm, maybe I should re-write that last line...nah, WTH let's leave it!) It's time to celebrate ...I'm going to bed.
It was late, I was bored! Hey, I did get turned down by a very nice lady, if that helps. She actually replied with a very kind and thoughtful rejection. I wanted to meet her even more after that lol. Today is a new day. Glad you liked the story Barb, again, I don't know where I picked it up but I thought it was worth sharing.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Thanks Being Me. Today was like one of those weird dreams you have. I was supposed to have lunch with a friend but he has the flu so cancelled. Instead I went out this afternoon to start some Christmas shopping. I was in a store and suddenly began to think about how much my Dad loved Christmas. It was around this time a year ago he went into hospital and never came out. He was refusing to go, he wasn't gonna miss Christmas! He loved to Christmas shop. I went back to my car and started driving home and the flood gates just opened up. Finally, the tears were making driving an issue so I pulled onto a small side street and into a parking lot. I sat and cried, wiped my eyes and realized I was in Coffee Buddy's work place parking lot...interesting. I pulled out and onto a major street which was blocked due to road construction. The detour took me down a side street were the private school my kids went to for five years is on. That's when all my anchors were in place, my life was set...we were happy. I'm feeling a bit washed out right now, tears do that to me. This is the first Christmas without Dad...I miss him.
