One thing I have come to realise is how much a part of me envied and resented my xh's running off to start over a new life. Rationally and emotionally on one level I knew it was a pointless and damaging act. BUT the LBS has no choice but to deal with the fallout on themselves and their children.
A bit of me would have liked to up stakes, take up with a new romantic partner, not worry about my former home, bills, or children, and run off into a new and glorious life. Oh and blame it all on our spouse for causing it. And let's face it that phase of MLC lasts for a long time, while we plod along feeling like a rejected old boot, with our children hurt bewildered and angry, and a lot of the world assuming that our marriage was never up to much . . . .
no wonder the injustice of it all is re-ignited by hearing a chance remark from our former spouse which so does not get it. It is a gut wrenching and wrecking and devastating experience, whichever way you look at it.
I agree with Cadet, you are at the darkest part of the tunnel now - doing it for ever and it never seeming to end
