As for the piecing. It's pre-peicing. I'm laying that foundation (similar to acting as if, nice etc) so that he'll have something to miss.
I believe Dr. Harley calls this "Plan A." And it can be effective; however, it's not recommended for more then 3-6 months (and I think even that is too long) before switching to "Plan B", and it's NOT recommended when the wayward spouse is still actively engaged in an affair.
