Yep. Death by a thousand cuts is such an appropriate description.
Don't react or don't give her the reaction she expects. She's looking for a reaction. I'll give you the other side of the coin.
I brought my WAH to see a townhouse I like. (Every time I say I know I'm moving alone.) He doesn't like it. He's corrected me. Even going so far to say/do something this weekend that he wanted to indicate to me, of our "agreement" to leave the door open "just an inch". (He pinched his fingers together and made sure I knew he was saying, I'm leaving the door opened too.)
Anyway, I was rustling through some papers on the coffee table and one is some brochures for another town house builder. He asked: Is that more pictures of the house you like? I said: No, it's from X builder. He then said: Well good, because I like the other one, and I hate that X builder's stuff.
What diff would it make if he isn't going to live there? Ya know?
You'll get moments of clarity in the fog. They're there. If she's looking for new digs. YOU should purposely look at the junk mail that shows new furniture. Circle a couple of groovy couches or man cave furniture and leave them hanging round. Don't do it every day, but I think you get what I'm driving at.
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.