Could be confusion, habit (if that was something he usually did) could be alot of things.
Learning to hear their words and take them at face value while noticing actions (without it spiking your expectations) takes time and distance. The whole "detachment" thing. It truly is the best thing you can do for yourself. Also, one of the hardest. The more you can focus on yourself and your D, the better.
Going dim might be helpful. Took me along time to get there.
