^^^^^^

I agree, what she said.

There is along habit of loving which is hard to dislodge. Very different from a neurotic clinging on to love. We want to stop. Actually loving someone is a blessing. Hard to see it at first, but the ability to love is a great gift. And it has been returned int eh past. We are not crazy women who were never loved.

These guys are in lalaland. I think my xh is beginning to realise it [6 years on doh!] Does it help? no not really. I have done the heavy lifting on me, and am OK.

life is different, but life is good. I feel like a refugee who has ended up in a foreign country and is learning to live there. It has got to the fun part.

Meanwhile the old regime is finally collapsing, but everything is destroyed/ MLC consists of tales of loss and reconstruction, whether or not we remain apart or get back together. Our life is a story with purpose and meaning.