She seems to have lost concept of reality and what is happening around her!!

We have not spoken, or had any contact since we spoke about OM and our son.

I have no problem with this and is what I actually want, it really does make things easier.

Yesterday I spoke to my son on the phone, and he tried to relay a message from wife to me, but was getting confused, he went to put her on the phone and she hung up!!

He called me back and said she didn't want to speak to me, fine no problem, but to act like that in front of our son is stupid!

I sent her a text saying, don't worry I don't want to speak to you either, but grow up!

I called the kids again last night and I can sense the nervousness in their voice, I asked son was OM there, he just said yes, I just said ok, don't worry.

So, I can accept OM is in her life, but I am not comfortable with him being around my kids, being in THEIR home every night, what can they do, its being forced upon them, my daughter is young and nieve, she is innocent, but my son knows exactly whats happening, and just goes in his room when he's around, this is not a healthy enviroment, but when I said that, I get told its better than seeing their father drunk!!!, that maybe true, but doesn't make it right!

She is so wrapped up in this, that she cannot see the damage she is doing, this is not the woman I know and love.

I am just mantaining distance again, but this whole situation stinks!!

I accept I did wrong and take responsibility of my faults and damage to the marriage, but I think I keep forgetting, she cheated on me when we were together, emotionally I know, physically I don't!, but she still has to accept that she did wrong.

Until she takes her head out of the sand, accept some responsibilty for her own actions, and see the damage that she has caused, this is not going to change anytime soon.

I am feel that all the contact and "friendship" we had has not helped, I cannot be a friend who is always available, I need to know that I did wrong, but also remember that she has done wrong also, she cheated on me, I've turned things around in my life, she hasn't and is continuing with it.

I hope that 1 day she understands what she did was wrong, but I'm not waiting for that day anymore.