W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

I have started to pack up my wife's stuff and put it in the garage. I told her last time she was her that I was packing her stuff up when she was walking out and she said ok or something. My W was gracious enough to post Halloween party pics on her FB page that all my friends saw. The pics were then tag and there is wonderful pics of her and a guy that wore matching costumes, hers was Alice in Wonderland & his was Mad Hatter. My W apparently is still delusional thinking this is ok and claims they are just friends. How many guys and girls do you know that buy matching costumes, go to the bar to drink with each other, and take pics together while having you faces nearly touch. I had a friend who commented on a pic saying "probably just friends too" to the which my W replied "Of course" and then she deleted the comments. My friend texted me guilty. I know I'm not suppose to spy or whatever but I really didn't as I have been defriended on FB anyway so my W's actions are seen by the rest of the world and relayed to me. I did look at the cell phone records which confirmed my W's infatuation with the guy in her bar pics. In fact she was literally texting him every 2-3 mins all day during work, after work, and even while watching my S which doesn't make me happy.

Anyway, I'm moving on. I setup the Christmas tree and had to buy new ornaments since they were all my W's but thats ok. I will slowly make more progress on moving her stuff out as part of my moving on. I'm ready to file for divorce as I'm done living in limbo with constant disappointment. I have enjoyed my having my S for the last 4 days. Each day we bond more and more. He talks about my family all the time. I'm becoming the even better father that I knew I was. I have had my bouts of anger and bitterness but they are less frequent. My W's youngest brother and W came over for a dish they left at the house and we ended up talking for 2 hours. They commented on many things like not wanting to talk to my W, that my S seemed happier with me at his home, and my W's drinking problem. We talked about many things of which I was honest and was not trying to make me look like I was some perfect guy or anything. They questioned her signing up for school as I do and the many other actions she has taken, including pretty much pushing her family away except for her dad that has never been their for her in her past life and is there now just because he know he can take advantage of the situation.

I'm not sure what my W's plans are at this point but I'm done waiting and will be taking action on my own. I'm not going to jump into dating or anything like that like my W has without even being D. I want time to heal and continue my progress on my changes.

I scored some good things on Black Friday for myself and to be honest my financial situation has been great since my W has been gone. I confused as to what she was spending all our money on before all this happened. She seemed to go shopping for groceries or otherwise all the time. I think she is still struggling with the money thing now but that is her own fault as she didn't like my conservative ways on financial things. I have more shopping to do for my son and rest of my family. I had my parents over tonight for dinner with my S. My S loves his Grandpa and Grandma.

Well I will try to keep you all updated. Please feel free to chime in with advice and support. Thanks DB forum.