There is hope for you to reconcile. It is not an easy or a short path. But believe that there is hope.

Your H is going through some serious issues of his own. Coyote is right he has to go through them.

It is strange that he needed to get D so fast. It is irrational. Which I find hopeful. Rational people that D take the time to work with their partner in therapy etc before rushing to file a D. He is in a manic phase and until he stops he will not see any other option for your R then D. Let him go through this alone and there is hope.

Hard for me to believe anyone is really happy at a party with a buddy drinking. That to me is just sad.

BELIEVE. Dont quit. You can find happiness with our without him

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M 39
H 35
D5,D4
M 4
T 9
ILYBNILWY 5/18/11
Left 7/11/11
Divorced 12/1/13